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Anger is an intense emotion that signals to us that something is wrong, anger has many positive benefits but can also lead us to do and say things we regret. Unfortunately, many people with an anger problem either think it’s about the anger or look at external factors such as relationships, circumstances or environment to explain the anger away. In psychotherapy anger is generally understood as a secondary emotion which means another emotion precedes it. Consequently, unless we uncover the primary emotion that triggered the anger we will not have the understanding to prevent our anger although you can learn some coping skills to manage the anger. For example, if the root of my anger is feelings of rejection I cannot make substantial progress with my anger unless I explore my feelings of rejection.
A primary emotion can be a variety of emotions although with anger it is commonly fear or, any kind of hurt since anger is an emotion that protects us it often is triggered when vulnerability appears or we feel threatened. Therefore, when we discuss anger problems the question should be what emotion came before the anger or what triggered it. Since the primary emotion may only appear briefly many of us are not even aware that is what’s happening. In many cases an individual needs a skilled therapist to figure this out but there are answers available and these answers are the key to working through anger issues.
Anger work also involves learning skills to cope with the anger triggers and practicing relaxation techniques to help keep you calmer so you can cope more effectively. If you are court ordered to seek Anger Management then I am happy to provide a letter for court or work to satisfy their requirements.
Stay tuned for one day Anger Management classes coming Spring 2020.
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